Parenting Skills – Positive, Proactive Parenting
Powerful Principles for Positive, Proactive Parenting
If I had my time again I would have adopted some powerfully positive, proactive practices into my life and the lives of my Children – but the past is past and now I feel I am privileged to be able to see things in a new light. I have, throughout my journey, gained more and more wisdom about respecting the thoughts and feelings of others and have become consumed by what CAN make a difference!
As we embark on the journey of Parenthood we have given to us a responsibility not to be taken lightly. We need to learn positive qualities and respect each person as a soul. We have all come to here to learn from each other. When it is loved ones, it can be a bit up hill. Our ultimate aim is to achieve harmony and peace inside us and carry it out into our family.
You might like to consider these thoughts…
- Your children learn by your example
- Understand that children are old souls in new bodies.
- Always be consistent and children will know what to expect of you.
- Remember how it feels to be little and how big a person looks to them. If you respect them, they will respect you.
- Children will not always do what you like because they need to experience things for themselves.
- If you see something that you do not like your children doing, stand back and see what you are doing or have done that may have caused them to do what they are doing. Think before you blame.
- You most probably are bringing up your children in the same manner as your parents did, and their parents did, because that is what you have learned. Once you have become “Soul Conscious” you will want to change you attitude towards disciplining your children. Being seen and not heard does not help children to learn to communicate.
- Make sure your children are given as much love as you can possibly give them. They will thrive on it
- You are being inconsiderate to your children if you are doing too much for them and not teaching them to do for themselves
- Discipline your children with boundaries so they know how far they can go. Let these boundaries out gradually as they grow. Children fell secure with boundaries.
- Give children responsibility so they can feel successful.
- Give your children positive guidelines by setting them a good example. That is by loving yourself. This is what gives you inner strength and you want your children to have the same. So do it and they will follow.
- You do not own children Everyone is their own person, a unique being, and is one with every being on the planet.
- Everyone in a household needs to share the responsibilities so that it is running smoothly. Have round table conferences with the list of opportunities of what is required, and let each member of the family choose what they like doing to their ability and their fair share. Show appreciation for a job well done.
- Above all, please remember that there are no perfect Children, Families or Parents.
- No one is going to grade you on your Parenting skills.
- No one is keeping score.
- You don’t have to do it perfectly.
- You will make mistakes.
- Some of these will lead to temporary headaches, but heartache is a necessary and deepening part of life.
- Nobody gets through Parenting without some pain.
- Accept this truth, and you will find being a good parent much easier.